When to Ask for Help
It is an awful experience to ask for help when you truly need it, only to get turned down. It’s even worse when the person who turns you down is someone who you are especially close to and who should be willing to help you; or someone you have helped on countless occasions. It can get even worse than that. You can ask for help and your ‘helper’ mishandles the situation and makes things worse. Consequently you may become convinced of the popular view “If you want anything done–do it yourself!” or “God helps those who help themselves!” Nonetheless, as much as we would like to avoid disappointment, and feeling exposed and vulnerable, we just can’t do it all by ourselves. In addition, we live in communities e.g. family, workplace, friendship, clubs. These communities require that we interact and support each other as the needs arise. Are you someone who has a hard time asking for help? If so, other people will have a hard time relating to you, and may be unable to trust and become suspicious of you. This is because vulnerability and being needed help to build relationships, as people share in each other’s lives and situations. Therefore to cultivate healthy relationships and to live with balance, we will need to share our load with others, and at the same time, be wise about it. Here at some tips to consider when you are unclear about whether to ask for help.
It’s time to ask for help
- When your thoughts and decisions place you at risk of hurting, harming or setting back yourself or others
- When finding a solution quickly will greatly enhance your chances of benefitting from more great opportunities which are time-sensitive
- When letting the situation drag on ties up your emotional, time, money and other resources and halts your progress in significant areas of your life
- When handling the matter exclusively prevents you from getting critical insight, which will help you know whether you are on the right track
- When including others in your challenging circumstance can build trust and greatly strengthen a significant relationship
- When you need to demonstrate to younger persons positive values such as wisdom, humility, sharing, vulnerability, generosity, thoughtfulness, inclusion, intimacy, balance, community, self-confidence, and asking for needs to be met
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Coach Cheryll Messam, CPC, ELI-MP, is a Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach, Energy Leadership Master Practitioner, and owner of YOU in Mind Jamaica, a personal and professional development company. Coach Cheryll helps local and international clients overcome their workplace, career management, job search, productivity, self-confidence and goal setting challenges.
Cheryll Messam, CPC, ELI-MP
Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach
Energy Leadership Master Practitioner
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