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How To Value Your Time
I hope you are doing well, I know we haven’t connected by newsletter in a couple weeks. In fact, a client who is also a part of our YMJA Community observed that she thought I had unsubscribed her from our newsletter mailing list. If you began to think like that too, perish-the-thought. I have been thinking of you. Truth is, the Month of April has been challenging, with three car accidents, personal sickness, family sickness, and I just learned today that someone I met last week Saturday, died violently last night. April has been no joke, but I am coaching myself through it to clarity, sanity and serenity, and I am grateful to God for life and the grace to work through the challenges with a keen sense of hope.
This leads me to the subject of this post, I’d like to share with you today. I often advise my clients, as well as the young college students and graduates I also serve, “Live life with…urgency…not anxiety.” I am confident that you know all the clichés about the importance of time, and why we should value it and how short life is, etc. Yet you may still struggle with Read the Rest…
by The 10 Commandments of People Who Self-Sabotage – What They Say & Why
- “Nothing I do will make a difference!”
Belief: I am a victim. - “What will they say?”
Belief: What family, friends, and people I want to like and accept me think, is more important than what I think or value, especially in relation to my own life. - “I need him [her] in my life.”
Belief: I cannot be [do it] alone. - “I am going to make her do what she should do for me!”
Belief: I have enough power and influence to force people to change their behaviour. - “I would have that by now if only…”
Belief: A good excuse will cover up my lack of action and progress in the significant areas of my life. - “All my life people keep saying this or that about me, but they just don’t understand.”
Belief: I am not responsible for the negative patterns that show up in my life, it’s my circumstances. - “I’m not as smart or as attractive or as educated or as wealthy or as connected as…”
Belief: When I focus on the assets of others I don’t need to admit that I do not like myself or value myself highly or believe in myself enough. - “I could have that, if I really wanted it.”
Belief: It’s not that I truly can’t do something or I find it difficult, my lack of performance is due to motivation - “I need more time to think about it”
Belief: I cannot admit that I am afraid. - “I don’t need help, everybody has setbacks in life.”
Belief: If I ask for help it means that something is seriously wrong with me.
Cheryll Messam is a Personal & Professional Development Consultant, Life, Corporate & Career Coach, Professional Resume Writer and LinkedIn Profile Writer. She helps professionals overcome workplace, job hunting, career management, emotional intelligence, self-confidence challenges, as well as set and accomplish life & work goals. To learn more about our services click on the links below and feel free to contact Cheryll via email: cheryll@youinmindjamaica.com or phone: 954-762-7942 (Int); 876-357-6397 (Local)
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by How to Make This YOUR Year
- Personally accept that YOU can have the best year of your life to date, this very year. Without this core belief, you show up in your life as a victim, someone to whom things happen, not someone who makes [good] things happen for your own self.
- Become clear about what you want in the significant areas of your life e.g. Self, Family, Love Relationship, Friendships, Career, Finances, Health, Spiritual, Fun & Enjoyment. Decide WHAT is important in the area and WHY it is important to you. Write down how life would be better if that goal was accomplished and your current reality.
- Select the most important area of your life to start acting on. That would be the area which if corrected today would have the greatest positive impact on you overall.
- Identify your constraints. Be honest with yourself about what holds you back from doing the things you need to do for your life, or doing them on time. Eliminating your constraints or managing them will greatly boost every effort you make in investing in the quality life you desire and deserve, this year.
- Remind yourself daily/weekly of what this year means to you, and why. Many times we do not have what we need or want, because we lose sight of what we truly want.
Contact me at cheryll@youinmindjamaica.com if you wish to purchase a Wheel of Life Consultation. Clients have the option of a 30 min or 1 hour consultation by phone or internet e.g. Skype. And perhaps there are other ways I can support you in making this your best year to date, so feel free to visit our website and review our services at
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Looking forward to being your Ally for Excellence in Life & Work as you are bound for your best year to date! BEGIN!
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What a Trip To The ER Taught Me About Clarity
So, here’s my story. While I lived in the USA in the 90s for college and then work, I came to know a woman, who I’ll call Sharon. We met at Church. We attended the same Adult Sunday School class and would chit chat by phone occasionally. Sharon was gregarious, welcoming, just the sweetest kind of temperament. She was the type of person you’d feel guilty not liking. One day I got a call from Sharon. Her tone was very unlike what I was accustomed to. She was extremely distressed. Alarmed. Scared. She was suffering from a serious anxiety attack and felt like she just couldn’t go on. Unknown to me, she had been on medication for anxiety for a long time. We agreed that I would accompany her to the hospital. I got in my car and headed to her apartment and we went on to the nearest hospital and sat in the Emergency Room waiting. Of course, before we sat down we did the patient intake procedure at the nurse’s station. And we waited. And we waited. And we waited. Read the Rest…
by What to Do If Things Don’t Go As Planned
If You Can’t Go Over or Under, Go Around
by Joseph Morris
A baby mole got to feeling big,
And wanted to show how he could dig;
So he plowed along in the soft, warm dirt
Till he hit something hard, and it surely hurt!
A dozen stars flew out of his snout;
He sat on his haunches, began to pout;
Then rammed the thing again with his head–
His grandpap picked him up half dead.
“Young man,” he said, “though your pate is bone.
You can’t butt your way through solid stone.
This bit of advice is good, I’ve found:
If you can’t go over or under, go round.”
A traveler came to a stream one day,
And because it presumed to cross his way,
And wouldn’t turn round to suit his whim
And change its course to go with him,
His anger rose far more than it should,
And he vowed he’d cross right where he stood.
A man said there was a bridge below,
But not a step would he budge or go.
The current was swift and the bank was steep,
But he jumped right in with a violent leap.
A fisherman dragged him out half-drowned:
“When you can’t go over or under, go round.”
If you come to a place that you can’t get _through,_
Or _over_ or _under_, the thing to do
Is to find a way _round_ the impassable wall,
Not say you’ll go YOUR way or not at all.
You can always get to the place you’re going,
If you’ll set your sails as the wind is blowing.
If the mountains are high, go round the valley;
If the streets are blocked, go up some alley;
If the parlor-car’s filled, don’t scorn a freight;
If the front door’s closed, go in the side gate.
To reach your goal this advice is sound:
If you can’t go over or under, go round.
– Taken from http://100.best-poems.net/
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~Coach Cheryll
Cheryll Messam, CPC, ELI-MP
Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach
Energy Leadership Master Practitioner
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by Making a Decision You Can Live With
Think on paper and note the pros and cons
Documenting on paper, helps you relieve stress from a mind filled with burdensome thoughts, and it allows you to take a break and come back and review the relevant details and discuss it with others, if you so choose.
Brainstorm options without judgement
Brainstorming engages your creative, solution oriented energy. In addition, think of someone who is completely unlike you and generate options according to their way of thinking. Thinking like someone completely different from you enables you to have a more detailed view of the situation and generate much more options than you will generate limited by your own mindset and worldview.
Honestly Identify your biases
Biases increase your blind spotS, which if not confronted will set you up for failure.
Consider who and/or what will be impacted by your decision
You live in community, consequently, everything you do will have an impact on the people you interact with regularly, especially your most significant (e.g. family, co-workers, friends) relationships.
Identify the human, methods, financial, material, and timeline elements required to make and implement the decision
This man-method-money-material-timeline framework enables you to see more clearly all the elements to be considered in the decision making process.
Ensure your decision aligns with your core values
Your values serve as your temperature gauge to indicate whether you are heading in the right direction. To live separated from your values is to live without peace.
Make your decision!
Cheryll Messam, is a Personal & Professional Development Consultant, Life & Corporate Coach, Career Coach, Professional Resume Writer and LinkedIn Profile Writer. Through coaching, consultations, and training opportunities, Coach Cheryll supports Professionals who wish to master or eliminate challenging workplace, interpersonal, productivity, self-confidence, and career issues or set and accomplish realistic goals.
Learn more about Coach Cheryll at her website www.youinmindjamaica.com or connect with her on LinkedIn https://jm.linkedin.com/in/cheryllmessam
Cheryll Messam, CPC, ELI-MP
Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach
Energy Leadership Master Practitioner
You in Mind Jamaica – Your Ally for Excellence in Life & Work
Local clients: 876-357-6397 (Jamaica)
International clients: 954-762-7942 / Skype: cmessam2
Email: cheryll@youinmindjamaica.com
Website: http://youinmindjamaica.com/
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by What if You Are The Weakest Link?
So you’ve finally and decisively (hopefully) made up your mind and now your goal is clear. But did you know that no matter how good you are at what you have set out to do, your performance will most likely be sub-optimal? The Theory of Constraints, developed by Dr. Eli Godratt (1984) attempts to explain this for us. Essentially Dr. Godratt is saying what we’ve heard from youth, “A chain is as strong as its weakest link.” When a business or an individual sets out to accomplish a goal, they will be hampered by constraints.
Constraints in an organization can relate to people, supplies, information, equipment, or policies. They can be tangible and intangible (e.g. organizational culture) and can also be internal or external to an organization. Constraints on a personal level can involve skills, knowledge, attitudes, people, finances, tools/equipment, environment (e.g. domestic, geographical, national, global). As in organizations, personal constraints can be tangible or intangible, and internal or external.
If we look at constraints as related to weaknesses or vulnerabilities, then there may be several such factors relevant to your particular goal. However, in the Theory of Constraints, there can only be one (1) constraint at a time. The weakest link. The factor that causes the…greatest… vulnerability or threat to the achievement of your goal. It is instructive to understand and remember ,that it is the weakest link that sets the pace of your progress towards achieving your goal.
Therefore your goal setting activity must include up front, the identification of your constraints, and careful judgment on your part of which of them represents your weakest link. If you wish to increase the likelihood of achieving your goal, then once the constraint is identified, you must manage it. That means take action to completely eliminate it, if that is possible, or manage it well. After you have implemented your strategy to manage your constraint, you should do an evaluation to determine whether your progress towards your goal has improved. If not, then adjust your strategy and evaluate again, and repeat until the constraint is effectively managed. If yes, you can expect your progress will speed up. It is now time to determine what is the next weakest link and take action to manage that and so on.
It is very likely that , many persons have aborted, and still-born goals in their personal history. This is not because the goal was intrinsically nigh impossible. This is not because they themselves were no match for the goal. It may simply be a case of setting a worthy goal, becoming distracted and enamoured with the idea of accomplishing the goal, and embracing the positive changes that it will bring, without doing the hard work of considering the disabling factors within and externally, which may get in the way. Then reality strikes at the most inconvenient time and they lose their self-confidence, and energy, towards their vision for their lives, and self-doubt , fear and hesitation increases.
Goals are there to help us keep focus on and bring into our lives the things we value most. Yet the process of setting goals must be done properly if we are to achieve them and develop our lives in the way we desire and deserve. Have you aborted a goal because you were hi-jacked by a constraint you didn’t pay early attention to? Did you miscalculate which constraint represented your weakest link? Remember the constraint can be internal or external. Interestingly, some experts argue based on the Pareto Principle that most of our constraints are internal. How does this apply to you and your habit of setting or not setting goals? Do you cultivate a mindset of limiting beliefs? Do you suffer from procrastination or indecisiveness? Do you typically jump into things without careful analysis and reflection? Do you properly plan concerning others but poorly plan for yourself? Do you avoid asking for help from family, friends, experts, colleagues?
You owe it to yourself to live your life fully. You can do this by examining what’s holding you back in any or every area of your life, and begin crafting a plan, then taking action to eliminate the constraint, even if you discover that it is you who are standing in your own way.
References
Godratt’s Theory of Constraint (Parts 1 of 3)
http://www.brighthubpm.com/project-planning/4088-goldratts-theory-of-constraints-part-one/
The Theory of Constraints
https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/toc.htm
Living Without Limits
http://www.briantracy.com/blog/personal-success/living-without-limits/
Cheryll Messam, is a Personal & Professional Development Consultant, Life & Corporate Coach, Career Coach, Professional Resume Writer and LinkedIn Profile Writer. Through coaching, consultations, and training opportunities, Coach Cheryll supports Professionals who wish to master or eliminate challenging workplace, interpersonal, productivity, self-confidence, and career issues or set and accomplish realistic goals.
Learn more about Coach Cheryll at her website www.youinmindjamaica.comor connect with her on LinkedIn https://jm.linkedin.com/in/cheryllmessam
Cheryll Messam, CPC, ELI-MP
Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach
Energy Leadership Master Practitioner
You in Mind Jamaica – Your Ally for Excellence in Life & Work
Local clients: 876-357-6397 (Jamaica)
International clients: 954-762-7942 / Skype: cmessam2
Email: cheryll@youinmindjamaica.com
Website: http://youinmindjamaica.com/
LinkedIn: https://jm.linkedin.com/in/cheryllmessam
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by 10 Life Quotes From The Greats!
In growing up I would be told quite regularly and sternly by adults “A word to the wise is sufficient!” Can you relate? Of course this is no commentary on any behaviour of mine that would warrant several reminders. You know how adults get. Heh Heh. There were these stern reminders in the forms of ‘sayings and proverbs’ on the one hand. On the other hand, my school curriculum from early childhood through to secondary was rife with quotes and gems, which had to be memorized. And you know what? They continue to this day to play over and over in my head, at the most inconvenient times, especially when I would like to indulge in a generous helping of foolishness. Can you relate?
But it was all for the good, as I have come to value quotes. I find them effective in illuminating, guiding, inspiring, comforting and strengthening us in our human experiences and predicaments. I share ten such with you from the lips of great men of old — Aristotle, Cicero, Heraclitus, Homer and Seneca. I hope that in the list you will find new, and old quotes but all together providing you illumination, guidance, inspiration, comfort and strength as you go through your life experiences and embrace the best that is ahead of you.
“Not to know what has been transacted in former times is to be always a child. If no use is made of the labors of past ages, the world must remain always in the infancy of knowledge. “ – Cicero
“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.” –Aristotle
“Reason should direct and appetite obey.“ – Cicero
“My best friend is the man who in wishing me well wishes it for my sake.” –Aristotle
“The difficulty is not so great to die for a friend, as to find a friend worth dying for.” – Homer
“The road up and the road down are one and the same.” – Heraclitus
“A man who suffers before it is necessary, suffers more than is necessary.”- Seneca
“Even where sleep is concerned, too much is a bad thing.” – Homer
“As is a tale, so is life: not how long it is, but how good it is, is what matters.” – Seneca
“A hidden connection is stronger than an obvious one.” – Heraclitus
Cheryll Messam
Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach
Cheryll Messam, is a Personal & Professional Development Consultant, Life & Corporate Coach, Career Coach, Professional Resume Writer and LinkedIn Profile Writer. Through coaching, consultations, and training opportunities, Coach Cheryll supports Professionals who wish to master or eliminate challenging workplace, interpersonal, productivity, self-confidence, and career issues or set and accomplish realistic goals.
Learn more about Coach Cheryll at her website www.youinmindjamaica.com or connect with her on LinkedIn https://jm.linkedin.com/in/cheryllmessam
Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach
Energy Leadership Master Practitioner
You in Mind Jamaica – Your Ally for Excellence in Life & Work
876-357-6397 (Local clients, Jamaica)
954-762-7942 (International clients) / Skype: cmessam2
Email: cheryll@youinmindjamaica.comPLEASE JOIN US
Website: http://youinmindjamaica.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/youinmindjamaica
LinkedIN: jm.linkedin.com/in/cheryllmessam/
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D5 Creation