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Happy New Year 2016

 

Given that in this one month, I experience two birthdays (It’s a Jamaican thing. Strange but true of many. Ha-ha-hah!), and the celebration of Jesus’ birth, and the eve of a New Year, I do a lot of reflecting at this time.

This morning was no different. I was led to reflect on the LOVE of GOD, and how very grateful I am to be alive at the end of another year of my life. And you know how you go from one thing to another in seconds…when you really should be concentrating on one thing? Well, next thing I knew, I was thinking of my Mother (deceased 2010) and a moment in which she loved me, so clearly. We weren’t close, so thoughts of her are always significant to me.


I am embarrassed to tell you, that Once upon a time…when I was less than 10 years old, I used to steal tamarind ball sweets from the supermarket we shopped at as a family. I used to pinch a hole in the bag and take out a few. Sometimes, I would take the whole bag. I don’t know how Mummy found out, but one day she caught me…after we left the supermarket. She took me back there, right away. Had me go to the manager and return the bag of tamarind balls…and explain why I was returning it, and.. apologize.
At first the manager couldn’t understand what I was saying. She apparently thought I was offering her some tamarind balls. I really wanted to go with her interpretation, but a brief glance at Mummy verified that ‘the piercing , threatening …look’ was real. With fear, shame and tears, I explained myself to the manager. With her own glance at Mummy, I guess she felt sorry for me, and did the gracious “Ohh! That’s ok!” and took the bag of remaining tamarind balls from me, and touched me reassuringly.
That’s all I remember of that incident. Don’t remember if Mummy said anything to me on my way home. She probably didn’t. She studied drama and used it to good effect in her parenting of me and my brothers. What I can tell you is, from that day, I learned my lesson that stealing, dishonesty, deception (including self-deception), are not good things and that they weren’t for me. To this day I am hyper against deception of any kind.
But that’s not the reason I am sharing this story with you this New Year’s Eve.
I’m approximately at the age she was when the incident happened. And I’m thinking of how hard it was for my Mummy to turn me in to that supermarket manager.
How she may have feared being judged by the manager for her quality of parenting . What she must have been thinking to herself as she stood there watching to ensure that I followed through on her instructions, and confess what I had done, and apologize for stealing. What she may have feared for my moral and character development, as a parent. Why would she steal? Why would she steal tamarind balls of all things when we have 2 tamarind trees at home; and she is eating them all the time; plus having them stewed and in drinks? It just doesn’t make any sense!!! Whatever her thoughts and conflicting emotions and embarrassment, she-turned-me-in. I had began to harbour unhealthy ideas about life which needed correction. Mummy toughened up and she-turned-me-in.
What about you, though? Do you have some unhealthy ideas about life, or unhealthy relationships which need correction, if…you are to have the Prosperous 2016 that you desire and deserve? In what aspects of your life do you need to separate your strong emotional attachment, and take a tough decision and bring correction, so that your life can flourish, and be what it was meant to be, wholesome, healthy, joyful, productive, positively impactful, attracting new and satisfying experiences? I encourage you to set emotions aside, identify what’s unhealthy in your life and holding you back, be courageous, and turn-it-in for a better life in 2016.
This New Year 2016 will reflect the sum total of our choices and responses to stressors as well as opportunities. Just like every other year. So take note. Take action and have a Happy New Year!
With You in Mind,

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Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach

Coach Cheryll Messam, CPC, ELI-MP, is a Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach, Resume Writer, LinkedIn Profile Writer, and owner of YOU in Mind Jamaica, a personal and professional development company. Coach Cheryll helps local and international clients look their best on paper via professionally written resumes and LinkedIN profiles. Through consultations or coaching sessions Cheryll helps her clients overcome their workplace, career management, job search, productivity, self-confidence and goal setting challenges.

Cheryll Messam, CPC, ELI-MP
Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach
Energy Leadership Master Practitioner
You in Mind Jamaica – Your Ally for Excellence in Life & Work
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End of Year Reflections for the Career Minded

How Did I Do This Year-

Today I had the tremendous pleasure of being  guest career expert on the At Your Service, Job Centre segment of  Nationwide News Network (Nationwide News 90FM). I was discussing with co-hosts Vernon Darby & Kristen Williams, questions that professionals can use for their evaluation of the past year. This with a view to identifying gaps to be addressed, as well as what worked very well, and which could be maintained, in order to have an even better New Year.  Below I share my speaking notes. There is also a handout you may download to help your personal reflections. Hope you find this information helpful.

 

SUGGESTED APPROACH

  • For each question give yourself a rating out of 10, with 1 being the lowest satisfaction rating and 10 being your highest satisfaction rating.
  • For the questions that you rated as 10/10, analyze and write down what contributed to making your life work well in this area. Commit to keep doing more of those strategies in 2016
  • For the questions that you don’t give a 10/10 satisfaction rating, analyze and write down what went well and what was missing in your experience that prevented you from having full satisfaction.
  • Brainstorm what one (1) action you can take to improve your score at least by 1 point.
  • Create a goal with a deadline to address the gaps you identified
  • Take action
  • Overall, note what you are especially proud of over the past year and find a way to acknowledge and honour yourself by celebrating in a small or big way with an activity that makes you happy.
  • Note who &/or what you need to let go of and release to live a more happy and productive life in the New Year.
  • Take action

 

REFLECTION QUESTIONS 

  1. How well did I remain connected to my values in the significant areas of my life? [ / 10]

Values are our deeply held beliefs with regard to how things should be in the various significant areas of our lives (i.e. Self, Family, Love Relationships, Career, Finances, God, Friendship, Fun & Leisure). It is our Why we do what we do. When our values are violated, or we make choices that are contrary to our values, it negatively impacts our emotions, increases our sense of being stressed, and may affect our self-worth and self-confidence.

  1. What is the overall state of my health, physical and mental? [ / 10]

We live in an increasingly stressful and fear-filled world, with daily personal problems, as well as financial challenges from an ongoing global recession. There are daily reports of job losses, disease epidemics, natural disasters, crime, violence, wars and terrorist attacks. Persons with good health are better able to withstand stressors than persons who have known or unknown health problems.  In order to maintain good health, our body needs consistent  good nutrition, adequate rest, adequate exercise, and fun & relaxation activities.

  1. What is the quality of my personal relationships and professional relationships? [ / 10]

There is strength in numbers.  When we operate alone, life can be burdensome. It is important to have relationships with safe people both among family & friends, as well as professionally.  Safe people are those persons who live with integrity, speak the truth to you with goodwill and who challenge you to build you up and not tear you down.

Good interpersonal skills will increase our likability and influence with the people in our personal and professional environments.  When we are in frequent conflict with our family and friends, it negatively affects our emotions, and impacts our professional relationships and performance.

The more people we know and enjoy good relationships with and who share our common interests, the more quality information that we receive about opportunities that will enhance our lives. Which is why professional networking is so important for the professional who wants to increase employability and competitiveness within his/her industry and job market.

  1. What value did I add to my [current / last] company? [  / 10]

Whether currently employed or job hunting, it is important to know the significance of your job within the organizational structure of your current/last company, and also to be able to quantify your overall contribution to your department, unit, and organization. Your ability to quantify your contribution, boosts your self-confidence, helps you negotiate for increased benefits, improves the value and magnetism of your resume, and helps you express yourself confidently in interviews when pursuing  other job or scholarship opportunities.

  1. What is my resilience against job loss? [ / 10]

Generally if you have a job you can lose a job. However with the current state of the local and global economy, more professionals are at greater risk of job loss. You should accept this upfront and take action from now to

  • Curtail spending and establish an emergency fund of 6 – 12 months of monthly income to cushion you, in case you have to suddenly job hunt
  • Keep updated with industry and labour market news, and analyze the job-outlook for your particular job or industry. Is it poised for growth or will it slow down?
  • Acquire any skills that will keep you competitive in your profession &/or industry as well as in an alternative profession, so that you increase your job hunting options
  • Determine how the market is responding to your resume

 or if already unemployed or you desire to switch jobs or careers for improved income

How robust is my job search strategy (online, offline, social media use, strong network)?

[  / 10]

Beyond responding to advertisements in print and online as a traditional job search method, how well are you  incorporating

  • Social Media – Mastering the top social media platforms that support job hunting and professional development? Creating a professional profile online which enables recruiters to research you and form a positive impression of how well you will fit their company’s culture? Joining groups online and participating by sharing original content and liking and commenting and asking questions of other group members consistently so that persons get a feel of you and feel connected to you over time?
  • Networking – strategically going through your list of contacts, sharing with them your job search objectives and intentionally asking them if they know of any opportunities, and if they would be comfortable submitting a resume on your behalf?
  • Identifying alternative forms of employment e.g. Small business ventures or freelance work online or offline?
  • Preparing well crafted, error free versions of your resume which target the specific job you are applying for [Not a one-size-fits-all resume], and which highlights your achievements instead of your tasks.
  • Knowledge of a variety of types of interview questions and being prepared to give impactful answers
  • Strategies to keep yourself motivated and upbeat throughout your job hunting period and prevent discouragement and depression in the event that your job hunt goes longer than you hoped (e.g. reading for personal & professional development, volunteering, exercising, enjoyable activities with low budget)?

 

SUMMARY

  • Ask yourself the questions, give yourself a satisfaction rating, and note your answers on what went well and what you need to improve in each area
  • Note what you are most proud of and celebrate
  • Note what you need to work on and create an action plan
  • Note who &/or what you need to let go of and release
  • Take action
  • Be committed to paying the price to have a better life and work experience in 2016

END OF YEAR REFLECTIONS HANDOUT (For Download)


 

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Cheryll Messam Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach

Cheryll Messam
Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach

Coach Cheryll Messam, CPC, ELI-MP, is a Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach, Resume Writer, LinkedIn Profile Writer, and owner of YOU in Mind Jamaica, a personal and professional development company. Coach Cheryll helps local and international clients look their best on paper via professionally written resumes and LinkedIN profiles. Through consultations or coaching sessions Cheryll helps her clients overcome their workplace, career management, job search, productivity, self-confidence and goal setting challenges.

Cheryll Messam, CPC, ELI-MP
Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach
Energy Leadership Master Practitioner
You in Mind Jamaica – Your Ally for Excellence in Life & Work
Local clients: 876-357-6397 (Jamaica)
International clients: 954-762-7942 / Skype: cmessam2
Email: cheryll@youinmindjamaica.com (* Remember to include your  name and telephone number in your message)

*
Office Hours:
Coaching sessions & Consultations are done by phone or internet telephony e.g. Skype. Best time to call during weekdays is evenings 5 pm  – 10 pm EST, and on Saturdays 10 am – 5 pm.

PLEASE JOIN US

Website: http://youinmindjamaica.com/

 

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