January, 2015

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Sticking With it Till the End

ICould-Would-Did went to college for the first time 3 years later than my high-school cohort, because I didn’t pass my A’ level exams (a UK and  Caribbean school leaving assessment) which would have gotten me straight into University.  My parents couldn’t  have easily afforded for me to repeat the final year of high school and re-sit those exams. I didn’t want to burden them, and in any case, I was ready to see the back of high school. So I went to work. I eventually got my first degree 10 years after I graduated high school.  That would include stops-and-starts and periods of grave and fearful uncertainty. This meant that I completed college 7 years after my schoolmates who went straight to university after high school. Well today I have two degrees including a Masters; got accepted to two doctoral programs, which I didn’t pursue.  I am a middle manager in a leading university in the Caribbean and owner of my own Personal & Professional Development company, You in Mind Jamaica. The latter, being quite an unexpected but pleasant and truly rewarding change in career direction. None of this would have been true if I had given up my professional dreams when I failed those exams at the end of high school, or if I had given up when I had to stop college for two years during my first degree, with no guarantee of completion.

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Staying Motivated

How do you stay motivated? What is the lubricant that keeps you moving from point A to B to C and on and on, no matter what, no matter how long it takes, until what you want to see happen, does? Which of the theories of motivation do you identify with? Perhaps motivation is instinctive for you, seemingly ingrained.  You don’t need to think about it much, it is just a part of you, to decide, then take action until done. How about  the role of rewards? Maybe you get things done most easily when you can see the benefit to you in achieving the goal. Perhaps you feel inspired to get things done when you feel out-of-balance in an area of your life, and that makes you uncomfortable and then drives you to do something about it until you regain your sense of balance and wellbeing. Alternatively, you may be cognitive in your approach to motivation. You believe life should have a certain order and hierarchy to it. You start by taking care of  the basics, and then you move to the next level of achievement until you reach your ultimate goal.

You are in a good place in life if you have a system that works for you to keep pulling you forward from the moment you identify and decide on what you want, through to achieving it. By contrast, so many people struggle with staying motivated and committed to completing their goals. That includes the struggle to figure out what they want in the first place, in order to define a goal worthy of their commitment and effort.

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When Motivation is a Struggle

If that struggle describes you, here is what I suggest. Focus on self-knowledge. Try to get to know yourself in a data oriented way. By that I mean pull it out of your head and write it out. So get a dedicated notepad, physical or virtual. Once you get it written, this allows you to review it, and reflect on it, and prioritize it, and discuss it with others with a solution-oriented mindset versus having it swimming around in your head. In your head your thoughts have no avenue for expression. They soon bottleneck, jam-up and create a great weight which just saps your energy. Very anti-motivational, don’t you agree? As you begin to think seriously about YOU, ask yourself these questions and write out your responses.

Thoughts

  • What do I think about most often?
  • Where does my imagination take me most often?
  • What topics do I gravitate to in the news media, in books, in magazines, at online sites I frequent, for online searches I conduct?
  • What do I chat about the most with family, friends, colleagues?

Emotions

  • What makes me happy at home, at work, in my religious setting, in my neighbourhood, in my country, across the world?
  • What makes me sad at home, at work, in my religious setting, in my neighbourhood, in my country,  across the world?

Actions

  • What are my  current weekly activities?
  • What do you I enjoy doing?
  • What do I dislike doing?
  • If I was in charge and had all the resources (financial, emotional, material, human) I needed, what would I ensure was available/in place, at home, at work, in my religious setting, in my neighbourhood, in my country,  across the world?

 

Don’t do this exercise in one sitting, spread it out over a week, taking a section at a time and giving it careful thought.  This is a brainstorm, and so do not judge your answers. Just write down what comes up, and get it all out. Once you’ve answered all the sections, review what you have written and make a list of  any common themes that you identify across the categories of your Thoughts, Emotions, and Actions.  Once you have your short-list of common themes, for each item in your short-list, write the answer to “Why is this important to me?” This will help you to see more clearly what (your goals) truly matters to you in life and why (your values). Knowing what you want and why you want it, is key to you staying-in-action regardless of challenges, disappointments and setbacks and achieving your goals.

Do leave a comment on this post and share with me what helps keep you motivated. I’d love to learn from your life experiences.

 

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Coach Cheryll Messam, CPC, ELI-MP, is a Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach,  Energy Leadership Master Practitioner, and owner of YOU in Mind Jamaica, a personal and professional development company. Coach Cheryll helps local and international clients overcome their workplace, career management, job search, productivity, self-confidence and goal setting challenges.

Cheryll Messam, CPC, ELI-MP
Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach
Energy Leadership Master Practitioner
You in Mind Jamaica – Your Ally for Excellence in Life & Work
Local clients: 876-357-6397 (Jamaica)
International clients: 954-762-7942 / Skype: cmessam2
Email: cheryll@youinmindjamaica.com (* Remember to include your  name and telephone number in your message)

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Energy Leadership Index – Online Attitudinal Assessment

ARE YOU A PROFESSIONAL filled with anger and frustration, wanting to let it go and have a new attitude at work, but finding it very difficult?

  • Has the workplace taken its toll on you, leaving you with low to no energy or interest?
  • Do you dread going to work?
  • Does your stomach churn during the day?
  • Do you have frequent tension between you and your boss or colleagues?
  • Have you grown less productive but working longer hours?
  • Are you at work, wishing you were somewhere else?
  • Do you long for the days when you were happier?
  • Do you wish you could just snap-out-of-it and get back to being  you?

 

We recommend the Energy Leadership Index Assessment (ELI)!

 

The ELI provides a data driven and current picture of how well you are engaged and motivated in your professional as well as personal life. Your level of engagement influences your ability to lead yourself and others to desired outcomes. In addition, the assessment provides a framework to assist you in reading your own emotions and that of others,  as well as changing your thought patterns, in order to become re-invigorated in your daily life. The ELI helps you become more masterful in your interpersonal interactions. The great thing about the ELI is that it measures your attitude versus personality. Attitudes can change with new knowledge and new skills. However personality tends to be stable over time.

The ELI takes approximately 20 minutes to complete. Once you complete it, a report will be sent to your Life Coach who will arrange a phone/internet telephony e.g. Skype  appointment with you, to do the debrief.  During the debrief, your results will be explained in the context of a 7 point scale, with levels 1 – 2 representing the negative levels, and levels 3 – 7 representing the positive levels on the scale. You will have the opportunity during the debrief to reflect on  which levels show up in your  professional as well as personal life. The ELI takes approximately 20 minutes to complete. The debrief takes  1.5 to 2 hours.

 

How Else Will You Benefit from Taking the ELI?

 

Clients who take the ELI

  • Receive a framework by which to monitor their negative emotions, as well as the negative emotions of those around them. This enables thoughtful and strategic interactions with others, which produce greater harmony
  • Develop greater self-awareness and greater confidence in controlling their emotions
  • Understand more concretely how better life will be once they work on eliminating the causes of the negative emotions in their life
  • Receive clarity on what areas of their life they need to focus on so that they can live the quality life they desire and deserve.

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CONTACT Coach Cheryll Today!

Coach Cheryll Messam, CPC, ELI-MP, is a Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach,  Energy Leadership Master Practitioner, and owner of YOU in Mind Jamaica, a personal and professional development company. Coach Cheryll helps local and international clients overcome their workplace, career management, job search, productivity, self-confidence and goal setting challenges.

Cheryll Messam, CPC, ELI-MP
Certified Professional Life & Corporate Coach
Energy Leadership Master Practitioner
You in Mind Jamaica – Your Ally for Excellence in Life & Work
Local clients: 876-357-6397 (Jamaica)
International clients: 954-762-7942 / Skype: cmessam2
Email: cheryll@youinmindjamaica.com (* Remember to include your  name and telephone number in your message)

*
Office Hours:
Coaching sessions & Consultations are done by phone or internet telephony e.g. Skype. Best time to call during weekdays is evenings 5 pm  – 10 pm EST, and on Saturdays 10 am – 5 pm.


PLEASE JOIN US

Website: http://youinmindjamaica.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/youinmindjamaica
LinkedIN: jm.linkedin.com/in/cheryllmessam/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/youinmindJA


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So How Will You Cope?

Be Strong and Courageous - Joshua 1-9

 

You know what? I found that last year 2014, I cried more than normal. I am not generally a crier. When I do, it doesn’t even last long, which I find frustrating because there is a time and place for a good cry.  For me it is a connecter and a cleanser. It connects me with the reality of who I am. Yes, I get affected. Yes, I get impacted. Yes, I hurt and feel broken at times. It washes my system of the pent up, burgeoning, and negative emotions and restores me to safety emotionally. I found that during my vacation leave in December, I would cry more easily. But “Why all the tears?” you may wonder.  They were due to being bombarded with loads of awful news, and in particular, the suffering it brings on people, especially vulnerable people. Read the Rest…

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